Remnant Archives | July 1972
"Any parent tempted to think his home is his idea, to do with as he pleases, heads a house of slavery." - Solange Hertz
Many years ago, squarely facing our ignorant brood and the inescapable
fact that somebody had to teach them the truths of the Faith, I began
looking around for tools. Among my youthful wild oats was a degree in
Education which led me to believe I would need, at the very least, a
blackboard.
As luck would have it, I heard genuine slate ones were to be had from a
dismantled school a mere 30 miles away. Deo gratias! It was, believe it
or not, the feast of Our Lady’s Assumption, so I crudely credited her
with this windfall. Fetching the thing would provide a most suitable
pilgrimage in her honor. Off we went.
I’ll come to the point quickly, as I think our Lady did: when we got
home with the monster carefully packed in the trunk of the car, it was
split. It was so split that not one portion of it was usable. We didn’t
return for another. In the first sickening sight of cracked slate, a
luminous message had been communicated, wordless but efficacious. No
room in our house was ever converted into a classroom. We never dared.
Transmitting the Faith live and kicking from parent to child does seem
to depend a lot on what you don’t do. Like the Ten Commandments, most of
the directives prove to be negative. “I am the Lord your God who
brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. You
shall have no gods except Me!”
Any parent tempted to think his home is his idea, to do with as he
pleases, heads a house of slavery. He doesn’t know the first thing about
religion and couldn’t even teach it in CCD. Before creating His Church,
God laid it out in natural form in the human family. Each in its own
way follows the same divine pattern used in the beginning in Eden, and
each is subject to divine laws which may not be broken without mortal
penalties.
A Christian home is furthermore a cell of the Mystical Body of Christ, a whole church in miniature, an
ecclesiola,
as St. John Chrysostom so goldenly put it. By its very nature it
partakes of the promises Christ made to the greater Ecclesia. Whatever
the world says, the home is here to stay. Founded on the same rock as
the Church, it too shall withstand the gates of hell as long as it
remains in union with Peter. And like her it will teach its children,
and through them the world.
As a true communion of saints, the home has many more members than those
immediately visible. Generations of its deceased relatives may be
dependent on its prayer and good works to hasten their entry into the
Beatific Vision. In return, although no longer able to merit for
themselves, these ancestors may and do offer efficacious supplication
for their descendants on earth in the Church Militant. God’s gifts are
without repentance. Once a parent, always a parent, not only in the
Church Suffering, but even more so in the Church triumphant. The
ancestors intercede for their families before the throne of God along
with our patron saints, not to mention the angelic spirits assigned by
God to the members on earth. All have a vested interest in what
instruction the children are receiving!
As in the Church, the members of any given family are predestined. They
are created and chosen by God, not man, to occupy a certain place in
this particular family and not in that one, with these brothers and
sisters and not those, and with these selected two appointed parents. No
one has the slightest control over the personnel of his family, least
of all the parents, who must get acquainted with their children as they
would anyone else as they arrive on the scene. Please God, all were at
least permitted to be born!
There are house rules we must follow, and these weren’t laid down by us
either. We are commanded to honor father and mother as God’s
representatives, and to welcome each child as we would the Son of God.
We must, furthermore, all love one another as He loved us. The Sacred
Heart has told us He wished to rule as the invisible but real head of
every household. In any program for teaching the Faith in the home these
facts must be kept in mind.
Because the family is a divinely created organism existing in its own
right, obeying its own inner laws, it cannot be subjected to
organizations serving other gods without incurring the wrath of its
Creator. Any attempt to manipulate its membership artificially by
legislation, birth control, genetics, euthanasia, indoctrination or
other human engineering is an attempt to displace God as Creator and
Lord of the home. It is doomed to ultimate failure by destroying the
society supporting such practices.
It’s to weep the way the home has permitted itself to be invaded and
dictated to by self-appointed experts. Mothers deprived of the technical
assistance whereby they might nurse their sick at home meekly allow
themselves to be ordered out of hospital rooms where their nearest and
dearest are relegated. Schools have literally torn children away from
their parents, setting themselves up as despots decreeing even what time
they may spend together, let alone imposing curricula in no way subject
to parental control. Private industry—and some government overseas
agencies—assume without question that hiring the husband and father
automatically entitles them to the extra-curricular services of wife and
children, even dictating their social contacts.
In every case the organization, which originally sprang from the home
and was designed to fill its needs and implement its apostolate in the
world, has in fact turned upon it and is preparing to displace it
entirely in pursuit of its own mindless ends. Generations of fathers
have been encouraged to put careers ahead of family duties, relegating
the bulk of parental responsibility to their wives. Now even these are
joining them in the ranks of the enemy, swelling the work force of the
world while even their newborns are left to the tender mercies of
daycare centers and experimental social projects. That many such
travesties are church-supported proclaims the depth of the disorder.
Sins against the gentle inspirations of grace are long behind us. Sins
against the Commandments are being taken in stride. All that remains to
fill up our measure of iniquity are sins against nature itself, now
being committed in the name of science and progress. When we refuse to
accept even the way we are made, we pronounce the final non serviam
against the Creator.
With this state of affairs, transmitting the Faith becomes mainly a
matter of reaffirming the obvious. Only the home can do it, because the
home is about the only place left where the obvious can still be seen
and recognized with the naked eye.
The last Council urged us to regain our footing by a radical return to
the charisms of founders, so let’s begin with mother, the very
personification of the home. The whole family begins in her. Mothers are
designed not only to bear life, but also to nourish and sustain it
after it leaves the womb. “Blessed is the womb that bore you and the
breast that nursed you” was spoken under inspiration in praise of the
Mother of the Church herself. Like all great truth, it celebrates the
obvious.
Due proportion kept, it applies equally to the mother of the humblest
ecclesiola, who is, like her exemplar, both mater and magistra. The
first doctrinal milk must flow from her, from her very being, as it does
from the Church. It’s hardly coincidence that the decline in home
teaching has kept pace with the disappearance of breast-feeding. Both
are symptoms of the same irresponsible motherhood, rooted in a denial of
nature. Even animals know they must feed and teach their young, but as
prepared formulas and plastic bottles substitute for mother’s breast, so
classrooms and audio-visual aids are expected to substitute for the
living teaching of the home.
There is nothing so intimate as transmitting the Faith. It can be done
only person to person, in an atmosphere of supernatural love. Where this
is missing, it degenerates into just so much information to be
conveyed—into teaching religion. Luckily secular schools don’t concern
themselves with teaching the Catholic Faith; but with the breakdown of
Church schools, Catholic parents will be forced to teach it themselves
or watch the world bring their children up pagans. Those who do take up
the obligation soon realize, as many have already, that not only are
they capable of it, but that they are indeed specially endowed for the
task by nature and grace.
I don’t know why it is, but almost everyone talks down to parents,
especially to mothers. As single girls they may have excelled as Madison
Avenue executives or Sanskrit scholars, but just let them settle down
to devote themselves exclusively to their families, and it’s immediately
assumed they know nothing and are out of touch with everything. This is
very odd, inasmuch as the housewife produces every professional in the
world, lays the groundwork for every science, and plies every trade at
grassroots level. Being out of touch with the world doesn’t mean being
out of touch with reality. Quite the contrary! Calling the housewife an
ignoramus would do little harm, if only she didn’t believe it.
“This place was made by God, a priceless mystery; it is without
reproof,” runs the ancient Mass for the dedication of a church.
Unabashedly applying it to the ecclesiola, we can continue, “O God, from
living and chosen stones you prepare an everlasting place for your
majesty. Hear the prayers of the people who call upon you!”
God hears parents. If the Faith can’t be taught in the home, it isn’t
Catholicism, and can’t be taught anywhere. That’s where it started in
the beginning. It’s not God, or his Church, but pedagogical bureaucrats
who have made it so complicated—or abstruse, as the case may be—that
only trained technicians can handle it.
The same self-appointed experts who have helped demolish CCD and
parochial schools are now turning their sights on our living rooms.
Catechetical congresses have already discovered a brand new apostolate
in “Home Religious Education.” Canned lessons are being prepared for
benighted parents to dole out to their children, on the just barely
implicit premise that mothers (and fathers) are incompetent teachers of
their own children. Soon whole batteries of tapes, records, filmstrips
and other audio-visual paraphernalia will be cluttering every room in
the house.
Not that technology shouldn’t benefit the home. Already it would be
feasible to transfer the bulk of schooling to the fireside via TV, tapes
and microfilm, thereby effecting a significant reintegration of home
life. The Faith, however, isn’t a school subject, and can never be
successfully taught like one. Like sex education, it’s altogether
special, and has already suffered cruelly from being crammed into
secular molds by those who should know better. The fruits to this
approach are woefully apparent.
Outside services could in fact be very helpful in teaching religion at
home; above all, parents need orthodox doctrine aimed directly at them.
This they have a right to demand from the appointed teachers of the
Church, for parents in the home share fully in the pastoral office under
the Magisterium as teachers of the children in their care, and in the
ecclesiola as in the Ecclesia, governing power and teaching power are
indissolubly one. They must not be divided by pedagogues who have
experienced home life only as children in it and never as parents in
charge.
Nothing can be brought into the home that isn’t there already, at least
potentially. Every successful pedagogical technique was first taken from
the home and artificially adapted to the classroom, never the other way
around. The genius of Maria Montessori lay precisely in grasping this
truth, rendering classroom instruction more fluid and less artificial.
As far as it went, hers was an inspired return to origins.
Any home can outdo Montessori if it will. There in natural state are
found all the elements of the best classroom, painstakingly transferred
from the home over the years. What is modern coeducation, for instance,
but a clumsy approximation of home atmosphere where both sexes have
always lived and learned together? But schools are hopelessly far
behind. At home, it’s still possible to address many different ages at
once, and let them address one another as God intended. Is there a
practice sillier than incarcerating 30 or so children all the same age
in one room to teach them something?
See where rationalism has led us. The modern school is an artificial
environment found nowhere in nature and prepares students for nothing
but more artificiality. It prepares them, for instance, for suburbia,
where people of one income level are herded together, or for other forms
of totalitarian regimentation like the concentration camp. It hardly
prepares them for real life.
In the natural God-grown community, the outlines of the Ecclesia can
always be discerned. All ages and both sexes mingle, and each individual
shows forth some particular gift in his relation to the others. Varying
levels of development are evident, with no segregation based on I.Q.,
size and weight, income or other arbitrary norms. There is, in other
words, true unity based on true distinctions, as in the triune God-head
in whose image we are created. Because the home is so constructed, each
one is unique.
In such an atmosphere “methods” mean little, for what works in one home
will be completely foreign to the spirit of another. Parents must
realize the wealth of obnoxious pedagogical overhead they are privileged
to do without. Divesting themselves of the hardened preconceptions
acquired from their own artificial schooling may prove difficult at
first. Those who allowed themselves to be soughed out of their homes to
teach other people’s children in classrooms will certainly fare the
worst. How few of us have known the joy of studying Scripture at home,
where all ages take part, where the younger share insights with the
still younger, and the dumbest may amaze us all!
The house itself bespeaks the home as magistra. The very plumbing
illustrates the mysteries of grace. Holy images and pictures on the wall
reveal its visible ecclesiola, house of God, holy and awesome. The
Eucharist is shadowed at every meal, the Sunday roast as victim
proclaiming both supper and sacrifice. How could a child instructed at
home look at the meat immolated on his plate and believe the Mass is
merely a banquet? The Cross is embedded in the very bones of the house,
in rooftree and window mullions; the youngest dweller can be shown from a
thousand props that the whole world around him is fashioned on the
lines of Calvary.
How is it possible not to teach the Faith of the Apostles at home? That
so many of us are unable to, certainly isn’t for lack of teaching aids.
Could it be we’re trying to teach a different faith? One not rooted in
nature, but in the disciplines of a corrupted world? Where there are so
many gods, the teaching would necessarily become very unwieldy!
Religious instruction for children apart from the home is a modern
phenomenon rendered necessary only by the rise of rationalism and
scientism, the breakdown of natural community, and last but not least,
the Protestant revolt. If parents would resume their proper role in
today’s structural wreckage, they have only one job to do, really: they
must restore their home to its true character as a center of
contemplation in the world. Such was the home in the beginning when God
walked there in the cool of the day, and where He walks, everything
necessary comes with Him.
Nothing less than a deep interior renewal can reinstate parents as
teachers. Catechesis is after all only a means to contemplation, or its
agent. Let’s not get unduly wrapped up in the mechanics. Before shopping
for texts and tapes, let’s enlist the help of the family angels whose
duty it is to enlighten those confided to them. Patron saints,
ancestors, parents and children must all join them in what is truly an
ecclesial family affair. No matter how educated we get, we can never get
around the Lord’s dictum that “out of the abundance of the heart the
mouth speaks.” Every tree is known by its fruit.
God’s house, he told us, is the house of prayer for all nations. It’s
designed to produce and nourish the life of God Himself, as the home in
Nazareth did, and as the Church continues to do. With the progressive
neglect of the liturgy, prayer and pedagogy have gone sadly separate
ways. They must be reunited in the home as in the Church, for their goal
is the same. The patriarch Job found it good to offer a holocaust for
each of his children, saying, “Perhaps my sons have sinned in their
hearts and affronted God.” He was at grips with the fundamentals of
parenthood.
We have the divine promise that the Spirit of truth will teach us all
the truth, but unless the sins of the family are forgiven and expiated,
how can we expect the divine Educator to teach in its very bosom? He is
the only religion teacher.